The so-called Big Five personality traits known to some psychologists - extroversion, openness to new experience, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism - can be partially flushed out by these questions. Either about your mate, or yourself!
1. Here's $1 million. Would you quit your job? If she begins a long diatribe about how her work sucks, she might be a bit neurotic. Also take note of her usage of the word "I," which can be a red flag if it's excessive. When people are anxious, they look inward. People low in neuroticism spend more time looking outward, focusing on the environment of other people.
2. What gets you out of bed in the morning? Personal ambition and passion may be revealed through strategies, plans, and values.
3. How would you launch your dream career? Is she a procrastinator? A daydreamer? A go-getter? How she sets her goals and charts a course can reveal how she achieves in other areas of her life. Also, the nature of the dream career itself reveals something about her.
4. What was the most significant turning point you've experienced personally? Whatever defines her highs and lows, or her sense of purpose, is a barometer of her values.
5. What hurdles have you overcome in life? Is she always the victim? Does someone or something always spoil her plans? If her misfortune is always due to events beyond her control, it could be narcissism. On the other hand, blaming herself all the time could indicate a poor self-image.
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